What to say on online dating

After I worked for Evan, daters began asking me questions beyond the profile-writing stage, like message etiquette, how fast they’re supposed to write someone back, and what they’re supposed to say.

If you’re truly ambitious, it will suffice to say “I’m hoping to [awesome accomplishment here].” 4.

“LOL, lol, or lolz.” “My name is Jen, and this is my first time on this thing lol. ” Leading with the “life” things you want—a husband, kids, a cute little country cottage upstate—sounds more like you’re looking for someone to fulfill your needs then to share them with you. If you’re in your 30s or 40s, it makes you sound insecure about your age.

All too often, women (and men) will fill up their profile with clichés, TMI, senseless jargon, or lame factoids that do the opposite of what they’re supposed to.

To that end, we’ve compiled a list of what to write on an online dating profile—ever. “Basically, I’m looking for my knight in shining armor.” Hello, it’s 2015. “My friends tell me I look like [insanely hot celebrity].

I like to end with the questions, as I feel it entices them to write back about those first.

Also, remember that this person is a stranger and you're trying to make a good impression, so save the incomplete sentences and purposeful (or not) typos for when you're dating. But if you didn’t ask the guy or girl a question (even if they didn’t ask you one), you need to go back and ask one (or a few)! If you want a response, you need to give them something to respond to.

A study by the University of Iowa has similar advice.

In an Iowa Now article, Andy High, corresponding author of the study and assistant professor in the university’s Department of Communication Studies, said, “You want to balance all that is wonderful about yourself with some things that aren’t negative, but more humble or realistic about yourself.

As an avid dater, online and off, and as someone who used to work for Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz, helping clients write their profiles, I saw many common online dating mistakes.

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