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In a HCP’s distorted mind, hurts and slights that occurred 10 years ago are as fresh as last week.

And even though the ink on your divorce decree has long since dried, the HCP believes you are still her “property” and that she should come first, even if she has to mask her demands by superimposing them onto your children.

What matters more than the passage of time is boundaries.

Creating and enforcing boundaries with an HCP ex is often hard-fought and hard-won.

It also reinforces your HCP ex’s false belief that she still maintains the numero uno position in your life.

My husband’s ex insisted that I call and introduce myself to her (a.k.a. She tried to position herself as the matriarch of their now-defunct family and make me one of her “subjects.” I refused and insisted that my husband introduce me to her in person, you know, like normal people do.

Men, try to treat your new relationship as you would have treated any new relationship before your HCP ex taught you to walk on eggshells.

3) Enforce boundaries with your family of origin post-divorce.

Some divorcees continue to celebrate holidays and special occasions such as birthdays with their HCP ex.

This, in my opinion, is a sure fire way to stay single.

2) Don’t allow your HCP ex to portray your new love interest as “the other woman.” While it’s important to keep your dating life separate from your HCP ex, it’s equally important that you not hide any serious girlfriends or significant others from the HCP.

This may sound like contradictory advice and, in a sense, it is.

He described divorcing his HCP first wife as “being paroled from prison.” While going through his divorce, he met a woman who he thought was “the ONE.” In his estimation, he’d finally found someone who could offer all the love and affection he’d been missing during his 6-year prison-sentence of a marriage.

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