Dating a bi sexual

' And he said, ' Since you're asking, I'm assuming the answer isn't straight.' We had a great conversation about what being bisexual means, perceptions of it in both straight and gay culture, and what it means for me personally.

His only real questions were if his dad knew (yes) and if his brother knew (no).

In a way, marrying a man makes it easy to 'hide.' People just assume you're straight.

It can be freeing not to have to worry about people's negative reactions to even just seeing you with your partner.

We weren't just waiting for you to come along and help us make up our minds. Please don't go down the pub and tell your mates you've "turned" a lesbian. As a bi woman, being in a same-sex couple doesn't make us a lesbian, any more than being in an opposite-sex couple makes us straight.

We're not going to be defined by our relationship with you.

You know that you've hit on the truth.) And, for most of our relationship, all it's really meant is making some past relationships with women make a whole lot more sense.

In the past year, my younger son has started asking some really insightful questions about gender issues and sexual orientation (like, ' Why is sexual orientation defined only by what body part goes where? A couple of weeks ago, during one of our conversations, I knew I had an opportunity to share this facet of myself with him. ' It took him a long time to answer, and I said, ' You've never really thought about it, have you?

(At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way.) A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination (my boyfriend had left at this point) and tells me in a sly voice, ' I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we?

That was just a phase.'" "I'm a bi/pansexual woman married to a straight man. My parents never said that homosexuality was wrong, but they never really said it was OK either. But my church made it clear to me as a young person that it was only OK to be straight.

I can't even begin to count the number of times I've dropped the "b-bomb" and the girl I've been talking to has suddenly needed the toilet and then a few minutes later been seen chatting someone else up on the other side of the room. Woody Allen has a lot to answer for with his "doubles your chances on a Saturday night" comment.

I've loved women deeply and to suggest that me seeing a woman on the side when I'm with a man "doesn't count" is to completely devalue and dismiss that love. A lot of lesbians are terrified of dating bi girls in case they "run off" with a man. Contrary to popular belief, we don't fancy the entire population, any more than straight girls fancy every single bloke. It's kinda cute when you still do a little double-take. Bisexuality is not a comfy little alcove for people to rest in while they gather courage to come out as gay, or just a way to impress guys at parties. Not every bisexual has had sexual contact with more than one gender. Perhaps they've felt shy, or picky, or the opportunity has simply never arisen. The bi community is full of genderfluid, trans and other gender-non-conforming individuals, as well as solid friends and allies of those people. Date a bi girl and you might find yourself learning a lot more about gender beyond the binary world of "he" and "she". We'll love you even more if you come and march with us.

"I was in a new city, needed a doctor, so filled out my health history, my partners, etc.

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