Challenges of dating a man in a wheelchair Naughty katie chat bot

Tiffiny Carlson is a writer and quadriplegic from Minneapolis.She has a C6 spinal cord injury from a diving accident when she was 14 years old. She's been the SCI Life columnist for New Mobility magaz...

Everybody wants to hear something positive about themselves, especially people with disabilities, as we tend to get hard on ourselves about our physical problems.

If someone interested in us gives us some nice compliments, you can bet our ears will perk up.

Just please make sure your compliments are genuine. People with disabilities tend to be more shy than the average person, which means chances are, you will have to put on the first moves if you're interested. I've been hit on so many crazies I can't even count anymore and it' all because of the wheelchair.

Many of us wrongly assume that most people who see us on the street won't be interested, so we carry on doing our thing, not thinking about possible attractions. Just because we understand pain doesn't mean we want to hear your life story right from the get-go. We may be a wheelchair-user but it doesn't mean we're immune to weirdness. The art of hitting on someone is definitely an acquired skill.

“I couldn’t tell you who else was in the room that night,” Stephen said like a bashful teenager, years later.

“She smiled at me, and the chill I’d carried in with me instantly vanished.” They exchanged flirtatious glances all through dinner, seated too far apart for actual conversation.

Romantic love depends on intangible qualities that can be affected by a person’s physical condition—but usually aren’t.

Loyalty, kindness, understanding, forgiveness, humor—none of these suffer at all from bodily limitations.

A good way to differentiate yourself from these people is to always flash a flirty smile so we know you're not another gawker. I've encountered some really offensive people who say they "like me," yet show they have no respect for me by making it very clear they think they're my romantic savior because of my "limited options." If you want to offend someone in a wheelchair real quick, this is how to do it.

Many of us are just as picky as you because we have to be. When putting the moves on, a compliment can be one of the best pick-up lines.

Asking the person details regarding their disability should eventually happen but it should wait until the second date at least. As a woman who's used a wheelchair through her "best-looking" years (and hopefully many more to come) - teens, twenties and now thirties - I've personally experienced many painful attempts of men trying to hit on me.

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